Such tough choices. Do I go for it, or do I just let it slip? Does he like me, or just want a date to the new Harry Potter film? There's really no way to know unless you try it out, but long distance is tough on everybody and is better avoided. Also, you might end up moving in the end to be with him, or him to you, and moving is absolutely the worst possible thing in the world to do in the best of situations! And then you might STILL break up, and you have to move AGAIN. Ugh.

Can you tell I just moved?

You'll certainly make the right decision here. I'm glad I don't have to, because I don't even know what the right decision is. It depends on you, what you want, and who you want it with, and which of those 3 is more important.

I also think that he's jumping too fast, not because you're not worth it, but because... it's too fast.

Maybe you should express your reservations to him, tell him that you want to stay in touch and continue your conversations, but that you're not sure that you're ready for a committed relationship with him. I doubt that you've done anything to convince him that you're already going steady or engaged or anything like that, so if he jumps on the "you were leading me on" bandwagon, you can safely assume he's just full of it (emotional immaturity, that is). You're right, you can't be responsible for how he's feeling.

Good luck. Honesty is the best policy, even if it seems like it sucks at the time.

So...umm, on a sidenote, you haven't written about shower guy lately. Not to be nosy or anything (ok, I lied...it's PRECISELY to be nosy), but is he a potential prospect (unattached, straight, etc, etc, etc)? Because if he is, then I'm rooting for shower guy. He seems massively, uber cool, and (don't tell this to any dudes, because I'm violating so many "guy codes" here it ain't even funny), I dug the video you embedded. He just seems to be an all around good guy. But if it's not a prospect, oh well...

anyway, I can't advise you on Internet dating. Never done it. But good luck!

Actually, I just moved too. And, since I just got a steady job, and I'm accepted into the master's program here, I don't plan on moving any time soon. Plus, I don't want to live with someone before I marry him. Call me old fashioned, but I've always felt that way. (Oh, and the bit about the date to the Harry Potter movie... very funny)



Well, this gets a little tricky to explain, but I'm going to try. I've warned him that I will be moving very slowly, and that I refuse to rush into anything -- physical or emotional. He says he's fine with that. However, he keeps telling me that he likes me and wants to make sure that I know he's interested. In a way, I understand what he's doing, and I don't think he means to pressure me, but... well, I don't know how to explain. I've told him that I will be going slow, so if he rushes in, then it's not my fault... right?



The thing is, he isn't requiring anything from me. He doesn't ask if I like him, or stuff like that, he just reassures me that he's interested. Plus, I'm kind of interested myself, I'm just not sure yet. He knows that. I've told him that I can't make any decisions until I meet him. But, you are right by saying sooner is better than latter. I need to put a little distance between us, I think.

Ok, fair point about the LD thing too. I won't even try with someone more than five hours away. I've done 2.5 and that was hard enough.

Gideon -- Sorry, I thought I had specified that "shower guy" aka John, was just a friend. I'm really not his type, and he's not really mine. He's a great friend though, and would do anything for me. And, since I read him what you wrote (sorry, couldn't help it. I'm in his room right now) he says you lose major dude points for saying all of that. (obviously kidding) Actually, he puffed up a bit at the compliments. He is a very cool guy, and you are right about him, but he's not a prospect.

Actually, it seems as though I have a new problem. Some time ago, I started talking to the first guy I met online. We seemed to really hit it off at first, and then... nothing. Sure, we still messaged each other on MySpace, but nowhere near as often and we stopped calling each other. I'm not really sure what happened. Now, I'm talking to this new guy and, what happens, but the old guy starts messaging me again.

And, just to keep things straight, here are some pictures of the three guys previously mentioned:

John (aka Shower Guy and just a friend but I wanted to post his picture anyway)



Old Boy (first internet dating guy)



New Guy (the one I'm actively talking to at the moment)

Screw him and see how it goes.

He looks like a douche bag, SHE!!

(sorry, but he does!)

There are too many things that could go wrong with that scenario...



Which one? I posted three pictures?

But then, I think they're all cute. Of course, I have strange taste in men.

You like goatees, eh? LOL.

Guy #1 = ok. He might be cute, but I can't tell with all those accessories he has on. Haha.

Guy #2 = kinda looks like a frat boy in that pic.

Guy #3 = looks smarmy and douche bag-ish.

Yeah but at least you'll have a bit of fun.

I'm sorry, I don't like his look either, not that he's ugly, just that he looks weird-freaky-might-be-hiding-something kinda way. Just my opinion and you don't have to listen to anything I say. He just gives me a weird feeling.


If you are interested, take it slow and don't be force into meeting more quickly than you want to.

hahahaha...Tex, you are so freakin funny!

I wouldn't want to meet him from that picture, but maybe he isn't photogenic?

I dunno.

Good luck..actually I wrote "good lick" hahahaha..thanks Mason, now I have THAT on my mind.

Now ya know how guys feel pretty much all the time

The 2nd guy looks the cutest and looks pretty friendly, but hey, I shouldn't be judging a person from a pic, right?

All I'll say is to continue to stick to your guns about the not-rushing-into-anything part. Hopefully, guy 3 will respect that. Oh, and I wouldn't rule out guy 2...maybe you should see where that leads to.

One note of caution.  Some guys look for a relationship that is far, but not too far away.  Because they are married and want a fling and figure that way their spouse will not find out.

Unfortunate and true.  Just be careful.