So true, Sugar High Elf.

I remember in the movie "Good Will Hunting," Robin Williams give a great monologue. In it, he mentions one of his wife's imperfections. Then, he adds that it was the stuff he missed after she died. The imperfections are what make us human.

I do not like to be in a relationship where I'm worshipped and put on a pedestal. It sets me up to fail and I will eventually fall from it. I've been reading a lot about unrealistic expectations myself. I think the ideals exist because of the who the other person wants to be. The other person may see independence, focus, and maturity that they do not have in themselves in the othe person. They aspire to have to those qualities.

I think if people are unwilling to compromise, the relationship becomes one-sided and selfish. It's the other person saying "my needs are important, not yours." It's not love then, just two people hanging out, not wanting to be alone.

So true, Sugar High Elf.

I remember in the movie "Good Will Hunting," Robin Williams give a great monologue. In it, he mentions one of his wife's imperfections. Then, he adds that it was the stuff he missed after she died. The imperfections are what make us human.

I do not like to be in a relationship where I'm worshipped and put on a pedestal. It sets me up to fail and I will eventually fall from it. I've been reading a lot about unrealistic expectations myself. I think the ideals exist because of the who the other person wants to be. The other person may see independence, focus, and maturity that they do not have in themselves in the othe person. They aspire to have to those qualities.

I think if people are unwilling to compromise, the relationship becomes one-sided and selfish. It's the other person saying "my needs are important, not yours." It's not love then, just two people hanging out, not wanting to be alone.

You are absolutely right. So many want the falling in love excitement to last forever but real, enduring love is so much more than that.

I had read somewhere to replace your name for love in that bible verse. It's what we should aspire to. It really changed my perception. Amy is patient, Amy is kind, etc..

It is so unfair to expect another person to make your life perfect for you. I try to live by one rule: I cannot be with another another person until I am a person. I need someone who compliments me, not completes me.

(And by compliment, I don't mean he tells me I look pretty... I mean we go well together)

I had never heard to replace Love with my name before. That makes it very interesting.

What a great post -
I'll modify one:

love is going to the store for her tampons and buying nothing else to pad the order and not making her feel bad about it.

You do it all willingly - happy to serve.

Happy Valentine's Day
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Moskowitz

love is going to the store for her tampons and buying nothing else to pad the order and not making her feel bad about it.

Oh, my. I've never asked a guy to do that for me... but I'm sure it will happen one day. And I feel sorry for him when it does.

Good one!

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