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Published on June 9, 2007 By Sugar High Elf In Life Journals
There are about ten people in my living room right now -- four of whom I never wanted to see again in this life or the next. I don't want them here, but they are my roommate's guests and, because I'm trying to be nice, I can't be the bitch I want to be. So, instead of going out and making a scene, I'm sitting quietly in my room. I can't leave, because I don't want to be seen by them. I don't want them to remember I'm here, because then I'll have to put on a mask I don't feel strong enough to wear right now.

I feel like I'm living in the middle of a tornado. Some things are good, some things are bad -- but they fly past me at such speeds that I don't have time to settle on one or another. My only shelter is found in books and video games. Things are getting dangerous though. I can actually feel myself slip out of reality and into these things and, even when I know I'm speaking and acting in real life, I feel like it's all a game that I can save and reset.

I cried over my ex again tonight. I haven't done that in a long time. Maybe it's because his friends are in my living room right now, maybe it's because of a song I was listening to. Maybe it's because all of my emotions are pushing their way through the dam, and I'm afraid the little Dutch boy is going to die once again, because I can't plug the hole.

The thing is this; I wasn't crying because I miss him. There's a great line I heard, "I'm not sorry I met you, I'm not sorry it's over, I'm not sorry there's nothing to say." and it's true. I no longer look back and regret meeting him. I don't long for him to be here holding me, though I would be lying if I said I don't want someone here now. I don't even regret that I will never speak to him again. I would have nothing to say to him if I saw him. I was crying for myself, and how I felt that I had been used and abused once again by a man that I put my trust in. I know I did it to myself just as much as he did it to me. I like to believe people are better than they really are. I turn blind eyes to their faults and deaf ears to anyone who would tell me otherwise. It's only after I get seriously hurt that I turn on them and look anew. This isn't something I just do with guys -- I do it with all of my friends. If you are my friend, I will not believe ill of you until you force me to. In a way, I think this is a strength. It keeps me from becoming poisoned by the words of others. But I realize it is also a weakness. I couldn't see what my high school boyfriend was. I couldn't see what my best friend from high school was either. I trusted four people who now sit in my living room that turned on me and made my life miserable. I trust beyond the understanding of others. I have patience that baffles my parents and my real friends. It is both gift and curse, strength and weakness, blessing and abomination.

I am scared for my future, I am lonely in my present, and I am hurting from my past. I hate nights like these.

Comments
on Jun 09, 2007
I cried over my ex again tonight.


You'll get used to it eventually. Trust me. I'm sorry your hurting.
on Jun 09, 2007
There are days now where I don't even think about him or, if I do, I don't get that awful punch-in-the-gut feeling. It's strange to go backwards so much... but I guess it's like when I quit smoking; most days were fine and then, wham, a super craving that came out of nowhere.

Thanks for the kind words, Shovelheat. I appreciate it.
on Jun 09, 2007
Life sucks, you deal with it, and you move on. You'll be just fine.



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on Jun 09, 2007
I say hold your head high, walk right past them and go out. See a movie or something. You shouldn't have to hide in your room. Is there a window you can crawl out of?

I'm sorry things are sucking now. Hopefully, tommorow will be better. When are you moving? Maybe that will help you get a fresh start, a new crowd, new experiences.

And for what it's worth, I think it's good to see the good in people. I hope you meet someone, friend or lover, who deserves your love, trust and friendship.
on Jun 09, 2007
Wow, Mason, that actually worked. I have a smile on my face now and I'm even laughing a bit. Thanks!



(Though, I will admit, I think it would have been funny if the sad face had punched the singing one and then got happy... but maybe that's just me.)



Locamama -- I've already moved. Unfortunately, the leftovers from the past have followed me back for a weekend. I won't see them often (hopefully never again) so it really shouldn't bother me that much. And, as for the window, they have screens, but I am tempted to get out and go for a drive. We have some pretty good ice cream in this town, and it would be a shame not to try them all.

Oh, and I have made one really great friend so far. Scroll down my articles for a bit, and there are two about a strange guy using my shower. He came by earlier today to see if I needed to be rescued, but at the time, I didn't think I needed it.
on Jun 10, 2007
I love ya, hon.

(((((SHE)))))
on Jun 10, 2007
Thanks doll. xoxo
on Jun 10, 2007
Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.


on Jun 10, 2007
I think him calling me honeysuckle was enough to set tongues wagging.

Actually, it's not like that with him. We make great friends, but other than that, there's no spark. Besides, if I had "gone out" with him that night, I know exactly what would have happened. I would have ended up on his computer playing video games while he played games on his laptop. Which is actually quite fine with me. I'd rather have good friends than a lover right now anyway. (not that I would say no to both...)

And I feel much better today. Depression is like a poison and writing always seems to draw it out of me. Add in a dash of book for an antidote, followed by a side of Cary Grant, and I feel back to normal today. Besides, I think I needed to do this one on my own. No sense dragging the poor boy into it. I would hate to scare off a new friend by showing him just how nuts I am when he's only known me a week.

Thanks for the kind words everyone. I feel about 250% better today.

(((everyone)))
on Jun 10, 2007
I'm late to the party-- but glad to see you are feeling better today -- and that you are making cute new friends!
on Jun 11, 2007

Is your roommate someone you knew from your previous college?  Just curious how the 4 people cound up down there since you just moved in.

Hang in there.  and Take care.

on Jun 11, 2007
Yeah, my current roommate is also a past roommate. I lived with her (and most of the group that was here) the summer after my freshman year, and again my junior year in college. She still talks to all of those people, but the ones I can't stand are more friends of the bride-to-be than friends of my roommie. In fact, they pissed my roommate off pretty bad, and I really doubt I'll be seeing any more of them.